My mantra this month is, “Be a little better everyday”. This is a nice healthy mantra for me because I tend to be an all-or-nothing kind of a person. Either I am the president of the PTA or I don’t go at all. Either I am making a perfect meal or we are having nachos again.
Be a little better everyday has been helping me as a mother and I thought I would share a few insights I’ve had since I gave myself permission to not be perfect but better. Here’s a few things that we can all do in order to ‘be a little better’ mother today:
1. Hug your kids: Hugs are so simple and yet so powerful. Hugging has been proven to boost the immune system, self-esteem, and trust. Family therapist, Virgina Satir says, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” Let’s all be better huggers today!
2. Read to your kids and maybe even yourself: Why do books tend to only be read before bed when everyone is tired and cranky? Read to your monkeys at 9am and while you’re at it, find yourself a good book and make time for it. Let’s all be better readers today!
3. Laugh and play: There is a really fun side of you. I know there is. Sometimes it’s hard to bring her out because you didn’t get any sleep, your kids are late for school, and whatever it is. But your fun side is in there and your kids need to see it. They are going to remember you exactly as you are today. Let’s all be more fun today!
4. Make your bed: There are all sorts of research backing up the idea that everybody should make their bed in the morning. I’ve started being better at that and I must say… it’s trickling into the rest of my life. Let’s all make our beds today!
5. Snuggle them as much as they’ll let you: I very much want my kids to be able to “self-soothe” and to “leave me alone” come 7pm. But if I’m being honest with myself, this freaking adorable kissy, huggy, snuggly stage is not going to last forever so I need to drink it in more. Let’s all snuggle our kids today!
6. Make them their favorite meal: When was the last time someone made you your favorite meal? It’s been a while I bet… but I bet you remember it. You remember it because food is sort of sacred, I don’t really understand why eating together as a family magically makes you a better family but it does. What is better than having someone make your favorite meal? I can think of nothing. Let’s all be thoughtful cooks today!